I have been getting quite a few questions about flight etiquette. Because this one has come up the most, I will address it first. More in-flight answers will come soon. Who gets the middle armrests on a plane?
Dear flight passengers,
This is one of the issues that etiquette professionals do not always agree on. Based on consideration, respect, and kindness, these are my recommendations:
Obviously, who uses the armrests can change throughout the flight. Especially on long flights, you should at least speak with the people in your row at some point about getting in and out of the row, accessing the overhead bins, and sharing space to include the armrests. This is a great opportunity to work on your interpersonal skills. You have the chance to think outside of yourself and allow the needs of other people to come first. When you do that, you may be surprised at how often you get what you want as well.
Also, keep in mind that when you are traveling, you are a guest of the airline. Do not put additional stress on your hosts to settle your minor disputes, as they have your safety and comfort to be most concerned with. If you do have disagreements that need intervention, please ask a flight attendant for assistance before you "take it outside," which would be difficult while in the air. Remember that you and the other guests should be on your best behavior and use consideration and respect when handling issues that come up on the plane. Though your comfort is important, the ultimate goal is to get to your destination safely.