Q: I have started undergoing cancer treatments, but I don't want it to affect a spring gathering with my family. Is there a way I can do it safely?
A: A spring gathering can be a wonderful way to lift your spirits during cancer treatment, and with a little planning, you can enjoy the time while honoring your health and energy levels. Adjusting a few things can make the event more comfortable, allowing you to focus on what really matters -- time with loved ones and the renewal that spring brings.
First, check in with your doctor about any concerns related to travel, outdoor activities or specific foods. Depending on how you're feeling, a long car ride or extended time in the sun might be draining. Your care team can offer advice, such as staying hydrated, wearing a wide-brimmed hat or taking breaks in the shade to avoid fatigue or nausea.
Consider giving yourself permission to simplify. If your usual gathering routine feels overwhelming this year, that's completely understandable. Let your loved ones know you might need to leave early, skip certain activities or take a rest break. People who care about you will understand, and keeping things flexible allows you to enjoy the day more without pushing yourself too hard.
If you're concerned about germs, especially with shared dishes or buffet-style meals, you might ask to serve your plate first or have a plate set aside for you. This small adjustment can help you feel more comfortable while still being part of the gathering. Wearing a mask, particularly if there are any sick people around, is another simple but effective step to protect yourself and feel at ease.
And if your appetite isn't quite up for a big meal, that's okay, too. Take what feels manageable and maybe pack a few leftovers to enjoy later when you're feeling more up to it. This way, you can savor the flavors of the season without any pressure.
The most important thing is to go easy on yourself and embrace the moments you can -- without feeling pressured to meet expectations. A spring gathering is about connection, renewal and finding joy in small things, which can happen no matter how you choose to celebrate.
Dr. Harsha Vhardhana is a medical oncologist with Tennessee Oncology and a member of the Chattanooga-Hamilton County Medical Society.